This sounds like such a tough situation, and it’s totally understandable that you’re feeling frustrated and worn out. It’s obvious you care about your boyfriend and value how kind and supportive he’s been in the past, but the way things are now seems really unbalanced. Think about what you truly need from a partner—someone who shares financial responsibilities, helps keep the house in order, and puts effort into the relationship. It might be time to have a really honest conversation with him about how you’re feeling and set some clear expectations, like him finding a job within three months and doing his share of the chores without being asked. Be specific about what needs to change, and make it clear that if he doesn’t step up, you’ll need to rethink the relationship. At the same time, it’s important to stop enabling him—maybe stop lending him your car, covering all the bills, or doing the housework for him. Focus on your own happiness and the life you’re building, and if he’s still not making any effort after all this, it might be worth asking yourself if staying is holding you back from finding a partner who matches your energy and ambition. If breaking up feels like too much right now, you could try taking a break to get some clarity, and don’t be afraid to lean on friends or a therapist for support. At the end of the day, you deserve someone who supports and lifts you up, and it’s okay to recognise when a relationship just isn’t working anymore.