Am I overreacting about these texts?

rcss47 · 2026-06-14T03:20:03+00:00

There had been so much stress in the house my body would amp up an hour before I was set to get off work cause I knew I had to go home. It felt like a panic attack every damn day. Reading these comments makes me realize just how much my body was going through in this situation. I blamed it on being tired from working too much. But now that we are not living under the same roof I’m not as tense all the time. I don’t feel like I’m going to jump out of my skin.

rcss47 · 2026-06-14T03:16:49+00:00

He isn’t in diplomatic training. He has been taking UN courses through their learning program. That is a whole other level of things that I don’t bring up in this post.
Essentially they are training videos like what you do at work for yearly compliance trainings. There is a little more to it but you get a certificate you can print out that says you took the course. He says he is bettering himself with education.

rcss47 · 2026-06-14T03:14:15+00:00

He is 50

rcss47 · 2026-06-14T03:11:44+00:00

I am on my medication have been for over 20 years now. Never came off.
My husband it telling this woman that I am not taking my medication. That’s not true.
I did seek marriage counseling he went to one session and has refused to go anymore. He also refuses to go to individual therapy which is what the marriage counselor suggested. I have been in individual therapy for over 20 years because of my mental health issues.
I am here because he is telling me what he is doing is not a big deal. That i am overreacting. I don’t think i am.

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T12:06:36+00:00

He is “casting a wide net” to try and find work

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T12:05:58+00:00

The calm comment hurt.

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T12:00:07+00:00

I have talked to him. He says I am overreacting and this is normal behavior. I feel like lying about your spouse to anyone let alone an ex is not a normal behavior. I do not do this to him. I don’t even talk to my exs

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T11:58:40+00:00

I did he is the one who said I was overreacting. He said it is normal to bitch about your spouse. I don’t feel as though you should lie about your spouse especially to an ex. I do not bitch about him and lie about him to other people.

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T11:53:55+00:00

No I think he wants her and is being disrespectful towards me. He said he isn’t and I’m acting like a jealous teenager. He has numerous other female friends some of those are also ex I do not have issues with them.

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T11:51:58+00:00

This is something I am trying to learn to do.

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T05:02:09+00:00

“The anticipation is killing me”
Seems borderline

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:59:13+00:00

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:53:21+00:00

He bold faced lies to her about my mental health and then lied that I wasn’t there to help him when he was sick. That feels disrespectful to me. I’m not saying he is cheating I’m saying he is being disrespectful and dishonest

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:51:31+00:00

I don’t know how to make a grown man see a doctor and get himself treatment if he doesn’t want it

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:47:45+00:00

No I have never met her or spoken to her. He met her right out of college

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:44:39+00:00

I talked to him last July about how I thought it might help if he talked to someone about things like a therapist or even a doctor that maybe this was like you said depression or the like.
He became very angry and agitated and told me there was absolutely nothing wrong with him he had never felt better. Anytime I bring it up I am shut down
I agree with you it very well could be a mental health issue but I don’t know how to make a grow person see a doctor. So until he does all I can do is keep suggesting it. If that’s what it is then great we can deal with that. But the way he dismissed me when I said I was uncomfortable with it hurt a lot

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:39:07+00:00

Yes that is what bothers me. It really isn’t so much that it’s an ex either. It’s the fact that he is talking about me poorly to someone I do not know.

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:36:35+00:00

I left. We are still married but not living together.

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:35:17+00:00

I’m not afraid of loneliness but I do have this hold up of wanting to be a good wife and not abandoning my husband.

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:27:37+00:00

I left. I went to family in another state. Husband went back to his hometown and is now couch surfing at friends because his mother won’t let him stay with her.
My son stayed to finish school. He is staying with a friend’s family. He will come here with me when school is over.
I did start to tell people and that is what started the ball rolling on my moving that and I couldn’t afford it anymore on my own. I found a new job here relatively quickly which was nice.
He is still unemployed. We are still married my family is pushing me to look into divorce and also bankruptcy as we have a lot of debt due to his unemployment.
But I am safe and the kids are safe.

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:21:42+00:00

I didn’t notice that until people started pouting it out.

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:20:38+00:00

I did talk to him he is who said I was overreacting.
I am not mad. I was at first but now I’m more sad and confused. Why would he talk that badly about me? I just recently left because I could no longer afford the bills on my own so I went to family and I’m staying there with our kids.
I came to Reddit because anytime I try to talk to him I am dismissed and told I’m overreacting that it is nothing and there is no reason to be upset. And yet I am. My goal was to have an outside perspective to tell me if my feelings are unfounded.

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:16:16+00:00

The messages are between my husband and his ex girlfriend

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:13:55+00:00

The last part about your body feeling different is familiar. It scares me that the longer we are apart the better my body feels. My chest isn’t always tight my head doesn’t always hurt I don’t feel like I am going to jump out of my skin. Both my older son and I do not need our anxiety medication anymore.
I hate that. I hate that I feel better away from the man I have loved for 22 years. You are supposed to miss your partner when you are separated but I just feel like I can breathe again and that feeling leaves me racked with guilt

rcss47 · 2026-06-13T04:09:40+00:00

It’s crazy right? Lord that always bothers me with his phone lol. You should see how many unread emails he has.

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