When my husband was newly sober he would wake in the middle of the night in a sweat, breathing heavily as if the beast’s of hell were after him in the dream he woke from. He would tell me about those dreams of him drinking and try as I might I did not understand. These dreams happened more often in the start of his sobriety, but every now and again, another dream will come to him. I thought how terrifying that must be, to be tempted in your sleep by the very thing you know you are working at staying away from, the very thing that you know will bring you to your knees.
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Like you, I don't know that I could relate to such.
I know each time the ex partner tried sobering up he'd get the shakes so bad I'd think he was never going to stop. It was frightening to watch. I can't imagine what it does to the sub-conscious.
Good on the sobriety for him; good on the sugarless for you. Both of those things dull the mind.
Great post, thanks for sharing your story. We all must learn to be more compassionate for we know not what it is like to live in the skin of another.
Good for him - staying in it - especially when things were so tough there for a while. And good for you - staying in it - when things were so tough there for a while.
Cat
As a child I watched my Father's struggle with this. Dreams...waking nightmares....imploring God to take it away.Begging for strength to not drink...It was usually better in the light of day....but not always.
There but for the Grace of God could go any of us.....Alcohol can be such a thief of spirt
Linda
I guess it's like dreaming you won the lottery and then waking up realising it was all a dream...err kind of.
Reading that has given me more compassion and understanding, it's a shame my husband won't make the effort to recover and our marriage is sadly over.
This is such a great post. Bless you for trying to understand what it might be like for the addict. That's a pretty special thing in itself. But then, you're pretty darned special :)
My wife has had the same dreams. And I've had ones of her drinking. Luckily, I haven't had one of those in a while.
Haven't had a drinking dream in a long time. After nearly 20 years clean and sober, I know....it's just a dream.
The dream/sleep world is an amazing one, and a frightening one because we have no control over it. After coming to faith, I would get attacked in my sleep world with very negative and hostile dreams. Finally, I asked God right before drifting off to sleep to keep my dreams focused on Him, and voila, no nightmares. Now, I ask every night when I lay down, and I get nothing but blessed rest.
Blessings to your husband. I hope God will rush to his rescue in his sleep world.
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