Dear Christian friends, you're not a Jew, get over it

"LOL it's like we're Jewish!" No, no it's not.  It's like you're an idiot with a sad idea of what Jews "look like" or act.  And it's not an honor, it's silly and sad and I'm amazed you've gotten this far in life.
Because you're not, you're making a mockery of and orientalizing Jews.

So kindly get the fuck over it.  You're not a Jew.  You don't "look" or "act" Jewish.  And your obsessiveness is only indicative of your complete ignorance  as to what constitutes a Jew.

That's not something a Jew does.  We don't need to have it pointed out.  You fixate on it.  This is a Christian reaction, not a Jewish one.

It's just a phase

I can't help but wonder, maybe everyone goes through a period of radical nonsense in their lives to some degree or another.  For some, such as my extreme shame over my time involved with leftist twats, that means a full blown case of radical herpes--marching through the streets and causing sane unaffected people to scatter.  Or publicly mock and deride depending upon one's priorities.  For others, that merely means subjecting oneself to some sort of bizarre progressive trash.  Radicalism lite that flirts with the same silly notions the lefty left espouse while scoffing at the notion of marches.

For these people, the suffering of the J-word under idiot radical notions are a silly sad truth, but one they do not contribute to.  So I find it rather odd when the democratic moderates suddenly go off on a whim playing international legal expert.  In only one country, with one American demographic mind you.  And just a touch disconcerting.

I don't care that you disagree with me.  No, let me rephrase that, of course I care.  Everybody thinks they're right and everybody else is wrong.  I think I'm right.  But I care more when you resort to tired tropes I heard out on the streets, lines I heard used against the "fascist police".  And lines I first heard before  I could comprehend what the myth of "Jewish power" meant.

But you're one-sidedness makes me queesy.  And your "Israelis don't care!" sends up red flags.  And your inability to even consider anti-S word (a swear!) in the Middle East, let alone in a demographic 2 shades darker than yourself, when it is so so so very easy for you to acknowledge it in the US, with the US leftists, and the US conservatives makes me sad.  Makes me wonder.

And it's everybody from the moderate right to the extreme left thinks they're anti-racist.  And god forbid we say otherwise.  Because yes, I can fathom that the people a little to the left and a little to the right of me are.  And I can understand the underlying intent.  But I cannot fathom that here in the middle that my politics, my egregious breakdown of "middle eastern" policy that suspiciously focuses on Israel could ever be deemed problematic.

It seems to crop up after a while.  And I always think, some time later after the friendship has dissolved* about just what had happened.  Why is it so easy for someone so rational to think "ah yes, but Israel..." completely out of the blue.  Completely divorced from years that are contradictory to that statement.  So I think, maybe it is a phase.  A sad racist little part of growing up.

*I have no qualms dissolving friendships over this.  I have in the past, I likely will again.  We all have things we cannot stand and this is one of mine.  To me, sweeping generalizations about my politics, or just thinking I'm a dick, and somehow tying that into "the Jews" means you are incapable of seeing me or treating me as a person.  And I am not one to be pathologized.

I don't hate feminism, I hate feminists.

I think I've mentioned before that I get right ornery when a--not drug policy--activist gets all uppity with me because they think I'm not pure enough or some such shit.  And I reckon I got a right to be pissed when someone gets to telling me I aint doing nothin for women or some such horseshit.  Or doing shit for social justice.  You name it.

I'm just gonna come out and state the obvious: women are affected by the drug war.  SURPRISE! Astonishingly enough women use drugs and women also get caught in the crossfire of paramilitary raids.  Stick with me here kids cus it's gonna be a doozey.

Drug reform is huge.  Know why? Because the drug war is huge.  We spend more on it than we do K-12 education.  As a direct result of its hugeness, many folks are going to be affected.  Obviously.  This aint really that hard to figure out.

Which is why it pisses me off when feminists go all "you're not doing anything for teh ladies!" excuse me? what kind of a vacuum do you live in where no lady ever has been touched by the drug war.  Obviously I have but for some reason I'm a bad woman and a bad feminist.  Because for whatever reasons, what I do doesn't count.  Moving right along...

You wanna talk about prison? You talk about drug reform.  Sex trafficking? What the hell do you think ties into that? Cartels dumbass.  Reproductive rights? The crux of feminism? How the hell is that not included in drug reform? Think about birth control.  Think about all the things that make childbirth easier.  Think about the dark ages before abortion pills.  These are drug reform issues asshat.  These are womens' issues.

And this teetotaling bullshit comes back to the same place.  If you think that women aren't involved in the drug war.  If you think we aren't victims and that drug reform is a man's place, you're being pretty fuckign selective in what constitutes a woman's life.  And if you're so damn selective that you can afford to just throw all of them to the wind, if you're so fucking judgemental of their lives that you will do nothing and think that my efforts don't count.  Well you're just as bad as those folks who hate feminism, who want to control women, who get to decide what women are good and which are bad.  And I don't reckon you should be callin yourself feminist bub.

*more links later I'm very worn out*

as i sit here brooding over my can of soup

This is yet another title that only tangentally has anything to do with the post itself and the explicatory introduction sentence serves little other than to distract.

Moving right along, the hot and pungent hatred with which I fumed a few measly hours ago has settled down to a simmer on the stovetop of vindictiveness.  Oh yes, I am an angry lady tonight.  On coming out day no less.  That is just a sucky coincidence, not irony.

Now, I am a seasoned veteran of drug reform and all the nuances and argument that goes along with it.  For the most part my exasperation is limited, I am not surprised by the rhetoric, though I of course find it all ridiculous.  Similarly, I have done a pretty good job learning to cope with nasty memories and the like.  Yet there are some issues that fall into the realm of drug reform that when touched upon, well, I just tend to go apeshit.  

Oh and I did lose my shit.* Because you sir, you man preaching at me about sexual assault and statistics, who the hell do you think you are that you may presume to speak for me? You are a male.  You are a white Christian male going on and on and on about how I should just be so utterly thankful to you for this fucking ordinance because sexual assault is--reported, statistically, charged--down.  And because Rape Victims Advocacy says they like you then ALL the women must like you.  And ALL of us bitches who have been sexually assaulted, who have been raped, we should just be crawling on our knees to please you.  You piece of sorry shit.  

"I think the women who have been sexually assaulted are thankful for this ordinance because sexual assault is down".  Rot.  In.  Hell.  I can't even fathom what in that man's mind made that an okay thing to say.  And my reaction is simply visceral.  

To hear them tell it would be to believe women are only assaulted coming home from bars, there is no underlying reasons or incentive for statistical correlation beyond the obvious, and women who still do manage to get assaulted are simply making "bad decisions".  

Let's point out a few things: the prominent rape support organization has been politicized for cynical means on an obviously contentious issue with a horrible tendency towards rape apologism: drinking.  The police department are providing all the statistics.  Rape statistics are notoriously wonky.  Reporting goes up in an environment free from judgement and full of support, and down when there is no help to be found.  Stranger danger is a lie.  And you're more likely to get attacked by someone you know.  

Now, I wonder what reasons could contribute to sexual assault statistics being down...

I sat in that room and I shaked and ground my teeth into dust for a solid 20 minutes after that assertion.  How dare he claim to speak for me? How dare he erase me? I am here, I certainly do NOT agree with you.  And if anyone had bothered to ask I would tell them damn well what I think.  I do not need some man who has not lived my life, does not know me, deem it fit to speak for all women everywhere.  

And I am so very, very depressed that there are women out here who will look at this rape victims group and say "they do not represent me.  I have no place to go".  

Here is what I learned tonight: Women are stupid! we should tell them how to think and what to do, so they stay out of trouble.  

I'm confused so I'm going to tell a story

So I just read this blog post on the Debate Link.  I'd comment but thus far all I have to say is simply, well that's...interesting. 

Once upon a time--being as I am a lady prone to interactions in which I am not so very polite, so to speak--I got into it with someone.  But first I got into it with someone else.  The first person is fairly well known by folks who have a brain as quite the anti-Semite (though of course he calls himself an anti-Zionist.  See here for an explanation).  The accusation is not unwarranted when one goes gallivanting about supporting Hamas, for instance. 

Yet I digress.  The outcome of my calling this individual an anti-Semite (hardly the first person to do so, I should think) was a bit of a tiff with others.  One of whom informed me that "anti-Semite" is a "vicious slur". 

What?

To whom?

Naturally I made sure to tell him I would inform the next person who calls me a kike that. 

So when I read that I thought, "well, that certainly rings a bell".  But I have no explanations or brilliant insight or commentary, just a head scratching anecdotal story.

What is WITH the handwringing over interfaith couples? Yeesh

I honestly want to know, maybe I've lived in isolation--a fair assessment as this is Iowa with relatively few Jews--but it seems like outside of the clique of Jews in Iowa that everybody else--or just the internet?--is way too preoccupied with interfaith couples.  Get. A.  Grip.  Obviously I'm biased as my dad did not grow up in a Jewish household and I somehow still managed to get a strong sense of Jewish identity growing up.

But let's step back a bit kids, this is America.  No one is forcing you to be Jewish, religion is more an individual lifestyle decision than it was in the old country.  And it may be that your children from your puritanical ghettoized ideal of Judaism will *gasp* leave Judaism entirely.  And it may be that a bitch such as me stays.  Who do you think has done a better job? My impure upbringing or your static idea of what constitutes a Jew in this day and age?

I'm just saying, no one is forcing you to be Jewish.  And in America if you don't run into it in your family you will certainly run into dun dun dun Gentiles! in the rest of your daily interactions.  I'd like to think the faith a bit stronger than the first time I run into Jesus.  It's like monogamy, I'm not going to stop fucking my boyfriend and run off the first time someone with say, better hair comes along.

I guess what I'm saying is, fuck you, I'm a better Jew than  you oh inter-anything hater.

ya aint got no credibility there bub

Ah bigots.  Aint it cute how "but but but I am an anti-racist when it comes to group x!" is used to explain away their hatred of group y? Listen bub, ya got no cred, it don't work by means of transference.  And I don't really give a rats ass bout your noble endeavors if ya hate me and mine.

But aint it funny how many folks will try to make this argument? I'ma ask my "Blood thirsty Deity" to help me.  Because Christians is always full of love and all that shit.  Ah, ancient blood libel, i missed ya.